This blog is used in conjunction with Sean Covey's book, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens".
Monday, August 24, 2009
Be Honest!
On page 7, Covey lists "The 7 Habits of Highly Defective Teens". Do any of these habits ring true? If so, which ones are all too familiar for you and are soon to be old ways.
Be sure to list the habit title. Explain why this is a familiar habit or provide a personal example.
Yes, I have done #6 [don't cooperate] more than a few times. It's only familiar because for some reason I enjoy working by myself more than I like working in groups.
I'm wondering if you can elaborate on why it is you prefer to work alone. Do you think that is something you need to change in order to be successful in the future? Why or why not?
Out of the list, I have to say I used to always do Habit 3: Put First Things Last. I would never do my homework right away because I have to watch something new on TV. Or have to go the store. I never really had to do these things I just thought I would have time to do it later.
Yes I have done #4 (Think Win-Lose) a lot of times. I think I do this because if I don't win I won't get any rewards and if I let the other person win they will rub their victory in my face and I always hated that. That's why I try to beat the other person first before they can beat me.
Actually a few of these habits are OLD habits. Habits 1 and 3 for example. I used to always blame everyone but myself, but then I saw that it's not always the other person. It's usually me. So that's something that I've changed. Habit 3 is something I've recently changed. Last year I would always wait until the last minute and I always regretted it afterwards. But towards the end of last year I started doing things early and I liked being ahead of the game so now I make sure that I do everything ahead of time.
Habit 1: React is one of my habits, I do this most of the time because a certain problem may get me very frustrated therefore; I find no other way than just blaming my problems on everyone else instead of myself in the first place. Habit 2: Begin with No End in Mind is another habit of mine; I sometimes just get started on something before I actually have a plan in mind and trying to figure out what my goal is. Habit 3: Put First Things Last is another of my habits because sometimes I put the most important things that I have to do first last and just wait for tomorrow to do them instead of doing them at the moment. Habit 5: Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen is one of my many habits but it doesn’t take place that much. Sometimes I try to talk first and show my opinions and then after I’m done I just sit there and don’t listen to others. Habit 6: Don’t Cooperate is another habit of mine, I know I can work good in groups and with others but sometimes I just can’t because I don’t get along with the people I’m working with and we have too many disagreements. Finally, Habit 7: Wear Yourself Out, I do this a lot since I put things off for the next day I avoid doing certain things that could be helpful for me in the future.
I would say that from the 7 habits or highly defective teens, I have 2 of those habits. I have habit #3 (Put First Things Last) and habit #4 (Think Win-Lose), I believe that I have these two habits because, sometimes I do some things that Covey wrote down under the explanation of each habit. For example, for habit #3, I sometimes do let all of my work that’s important for the last minute and I decide to go do something different like going to the park to play with my friends, or just go and on the internet. For habit #4, I got to admit, I sometimes believe that most of the things I do is a competition in between me and the other person around me, I want to be the one that wins in mostly everything. The good thing is that I’m almost breaking out of these habits, I do these two habits sometimes but I always remember my self to try to get out of these habits, they are hard to control but I believe that after a little more time, I’ll be able to break out of them because these two habits cause some problems that I wish they wouldn’t happen.
I for one have a few of theses bad habits but I sure everyone has at least one. One of my bad habits is Habit 1: React. In many situations I blame others for my failures. I seem to not take responsibility of my actions. Another bad habit is Habit 4: Think Win-Lose. I am a very competitive person so a lot of times I think win-lose. sometimes my competences gets a little out of hand. But by the end of this book I would like to get rid of these bad habits.
Yes, I have done #1 (REACT)more than a few times. It is only familiar because I have blamed others for what I had really done. I was being the victim, and not taking responsibility for my own actions. Sooner or later, the truth was found, and know this habit is old.
I have done Habit 3: Put first things last. I would always do projects a couple of days before the project is due or homework too. But now that habit is old now, because now i'm at least starting projects the day assigned to finish it earlier. On homework I start it as soon as I get home.
One of the 7 habits on page 7 that ring true to me is habit number 3(Put first things last). I hate that it does ring true, but it does. When a teacher gives me an assignment that is due until like a week or to, I would save it for last. I would do other things instead of that assignment. Soon these will be old ways!
Out of all the habits, one of the bad habits I’ve done is Habit # 3: Put First Things Last. On projects last year I would always be a procrastinator. I would start on project a couple of days before. When I had free time instead of starting on the project, I usually played video games or played outside. I was very irresponsible. This year I will try to change and be more responsible.
To be honest I have done all 7(react, begin with no end in mind, put first things last, think win-lose, seek first to talk then, pretend to listen, don't cooperate, and wear yourself out) All most all of my bad habits are from last year and this year I have not done much of theses bad habits I am focusing on the good ones.
Habit 1: React is a familiar habit I have whenever something bad happens to me I would tend to blame someone else and not take responsibility. I also believe that I seriously have Habit 4: Think Win-Lose every day I strive to compete with my peers academically and I see it as a competition to see who gets the better grade. I would also posses Habit 7: Wear yourself out I tire my self out constantly and I focus on one and ignore everything else. But I hope that I would soon forget about these habits and start fresh.
Some of the habits that Covey lists on page 7 Are all basically habits I had in the past .Habit Number 1 is a habit that I still kind of deal with which is that I blame other people when I get in trouble or for something bad that I did Or Have done. Like it just naturally comes out to say Oh! He did It Or No It Wasn’t me I guess because I try to avoid the consequences or what so ever.Hope that I could soon get done with that habbit!On The other side A bad habit that I have that I got rid of that Covey lists is that I did used to have the habit to put first things last Which is habit number 3.I would say oh! I’ll do it later then when later came I would say oh let me just do this until the last minute I would do it and that actually affected me a lot last year. This year I learned it was not good and it caused me to stress alot and to not do my greatest work.So Now I put important things first.
I got to say that the most ringing habit that I have from the list on page 7 would be habit 3, Put First Things Last. I guess that I have done this more than 5 times either because I just feel like a certain thing is going to take longer than another or most likely because I have a habit of simply putting the most important things last instead of the least important things last. I feel there shouldn’t be an order to the way you do certain things, because eventually they are going to be done.
To be honest, some of these habits do ring a couple bells. Even though they do ring bells their OLD habits and I have overcome them. Habit 2 is familiar: Begin with No End in Mind. I would always do things without thinking about it or having a plan. Now when I do something I make sure I always have a plan and a goal. Another is habit 5: Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen. This is an old habit as well I would always make sure I stated my opinion then just sit and pretend to listen to everybody else. Just like habit 2, I have overcome this useless habit. Hopefully no more defective habits for me!
One habit I constantly do is habit 3: put first thing last. I would never do projects or homework first. I would come home and relax but not anymore. I try to avoid doing that.
I got to say that the most ringing habit that I have from the list on page 7 would be habit 3, Put First Things Last. I guess that I have done this more than 5 times either because I just feel like a certain thing is going to take longer than another or most likely because I have a habit of simply putting the most important things last instead of the least important things last. I feel there shouldn’t be an order to the way you do certain things, because eventually they are going to be done.
I am guilty of Habit 5, 6. I consider myself born with the gift of the Gab. I use it so much that I then leave others out of the conversation and I won’t listen to them either. Habit six is a big one for me. I usually like to work in groups but sometimes I get associated with a group that doesn’t really do much: except for me- I get stuck with doing the actual work. So, I usually like to go off by myself.
One of the seven habits of highly defective teens are Habit number 3 and Habit number 7. I am used to always putting things last. Usually until the last minute! I am hoping this book will help me get rid of this bad habit. I am also a big fan of number seven. I am usually looking for ways to wear myself out. I am alwasy wanting a cramped schedule but it sometimes doesnt turn out the way I plan it to. Those are some habits of highly defective teens.
A habit that rings true tto me was Habit 3: (Put first things last) Which was about how the most important things in your life, you do them when they're due the next day and you do them at the last minute and that's what I do sometimes because I don't feel like doing the assignment because I'm feeling lazy and feel like watching television and using the computer. When I have an assignment that's due. A habit that will be old to me will be Habit 4 (Think Win-Lose) because sometimes I can be very competitive and I will always wanted to win so everyone can lose. But not anymore because it's rude to be competitive and you can also hurt someones feelings.
Habit 1 [React] I've blame someone else once or twice for what I did. Habit 3 [put things last] Last year I always would do this and got bad grades but this year I'm not putting things last. And habit 7 [wear yourself out] I still do this but I'm trying to stop.
Yes I have done Habit 3: Put first things last several times. Every day when I get home from school I don't start right away on my homework I usually just watch TV or do something else. Also when the teacher gives us an assignment that isn't due for some time I don't know why but I put it up until the last minute which I later regret doing it. Hopefully I will soon make this an old habit.
Wow! Thank you for your honesty and for being so candid. I appreciate your responses. I have to admit some of the responses did not surprise me. However, I am looking forward to the change you are committing to.
I want to remind everyone to review their posts before they submit them. Make sure you proofread and edit for both spelling and grammatical errors. Your post should make sense to you and to all who read it. Remember, I will reject your post for errors, if it is incomplete, or if it's not your best work.
One of the defective habits I have is to react. I react to things I get blamed for and say it wasn’t my fault, even though sometimes it is I try to make something up so I don’t get framed. There was one time that I did something “bad” that my parents didn’t agree with me that it was right and I reacted and said that my younger brother did it but it wasn’t him and later I had to pay for what I did. Another bad habit I have is seek first to talk then pretend to listen, I always do that with my brother first I say what I want to say and don’t really pay attention to what he has to say about the situation we’re in . Both habits are horrible and I have to find a way to break them and become a better person. One of the ways for me not to react is I can think before I act and not say dumb stuff like it wasn’t my fault. A way I can break my habit of not caring what others have to say is pay attention to them and let them say what they want to say.
Yes, I agree with Diego V. Some times when you’re having a bad day you just don’t feel so sociable and you would prefer to work apart and sometimes even alone. I have had more than my fair share of THOSE days.
I agree with you most of the time when something happens to me I have to react and put the blame on someone else, and its hard to stop but once you master this habit it will be easy as pie.
Yes, like Saira I also have the tendency to but first things last like home work is not the first thing I do which should be well hopefully that soon turns into an old habit.
Rachel, It is very cool that you are going to replace putting first things last. If you put off the most important things last, you will not succeed, and will eventually be stressed out. Instead of putting first things last, do the assignment, and just get it over with. Just remember to always do your best. That is why it is not good to leave those important things last. Do the most important things first, then do the rest.
Yes, I have done #6 [don't cooperate] more than a few times. It's only familiar because for some reason I enjoy working by myself more than I like working in groups.
ReplyDeleteDiego V.,
ReplyDeleteI'm wondering if you can elaborate on why it is you prefer to work alone. Do you think that is something you need to change in order to be successful in the future? Why or why not?
Out of the list, I have to say I used to always do Habit 3: Put First Things Last. I would never do my homework right away because I have to watch something new on TV. Or have to go the store. I never really had to do these things I just thought I would have time to do it later.
ReplyDeleteYes I have done #4 (Think Win-Lose) a lot of times. I think I do this because if I don't win I won't get any rewards and if I let the other person win they will rub their victory in my face and I always hated that. That's why I try to beat the other person first before they can beat me.
ReplyDeleteActually a few of these habits are OLD habits. Habits 1 and 3 for example. I used to always blame everyone but myself, but then I saw that it's not always the other person. It's usually me. So that's something that I've changed. Habit 3 is something I've recently changed. Last year I would always wait until the last minute and I always regretted it afterwards. But towards the end of last year I started doing things early and I liked being ahead of the game so now I make sure that I do everything ahead of time.
ReplyDeleteHabit 1: React is one of my habits, I do this most of the time because a certain problem may get me very frustrated therefore; I find no other way than just blaming my problems on everyone else instead of myself in the first place. Habit 2: Begin with No End in Mind is another habit of mine; I sometimes just get started on something before I actually have a plan in mind and trying to figure out what my goal is. Habit 3: Put First Things Last is another of my habits because sometimes I put the most important things that I have to do first last and just wait for tomorrow to do them instead of doing them at the moment. Habit 5: Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen is one of my many habits but it doesn’t take place that much. Sometimes I try to talk first and show my opinions and then after I’m done I just sit there and don’t listen to others. Habit 6: Don’t Cooperate is another habit of mine, I know I can work good in groups and with others but sometimes I just can’t because I don’t get along with the people I’m working with and we have too many disagreements. Finally, Habit 7: Wear Yourself Out, I do this a lot since I put things off for the next day I avoid doing certain things that could be helpful for me in the future.
ReplyDeleteDeanna,
ReplyDeleteI'm curious, is this now an old habit? Or is it still hanging around and slowing your success down?
Francisco,
ReplyDeleteI'm wondering, what do you need to do in order to change this habit?
I would say that from the 7 habits or highly defective teens, I have 2 of those habits. I have habit #3 (Put First Things Last) and habit #4 (Think Win-Lose), I believe that I have these two habits because, sometimes I do some things that Covey wrote down under the explanation of each habit. For example, for habit #3, I sometimes do let all of my work that’s important for the last minute and I decide to go do something different like going to the park to play with my friends, or just go and on the internet. For habit #4, I got to admit, I sometimes believe that most of the things I do is a competition in between me and the other person around me, I want to be the one that wins in mostly everything. The good thing is that I’m almost breaking out of these habits, I do these two habits sometimes but I always remember my self to try to get out of these habits, they are hard to control but I believe that after a little more time, I’ll be able to break out of them because these two habits cause some problems that I wish they wouldn’t happen.
ReplyDeleteI for one have a few of theses bad habits but I sure everyone has at least one. One of my bad habits is Habit 1: React. In many situations I blame others for my failures. I seem to not take responsibility of my actions. Another bad habit is Habit 4: Think Win-Lose. I am a very competitive person so a lot of times I think win-lose. sometimes my competences gets a little out of hand. But by the end of this book I would like to get rid of these bad habits.
ReplyDeleteYes, I have done #1 (REACT)more than a few times. It is only familiar because I have blamed others for what I had really done. I was being the victim, and not taking responsibility for my own actions. Sooner or later, the truth was found, and know this habit is old.
ReplyDeleteI have done Habit 3: Put first things last. I would always do projects a couple of days before the project is due or homework too. But now that habit is old now, because now i'm at least starting projects the day assigned to finish it earlier. On homework I start it as soon as I get home.
ReplyDeleteOne of the 7 habits on page 7 that ring true to me is habit number 3(Put first things last). I hate that it does ring true, but it does. When a teacher gives me an assignment that is due until like a week or to, I would save it for last. I would do other things instead of that assignment. Soon these will be old ways!
ReplyDeleteOut of all the habits, one of the bad habits I’ve done is Habit # 3: Put First Things Last. On projects last year I would always be a procrastinator. I would start on project a couple of days before. When I had free time instead of starting on the project, I usually played video games or played outside. I was very irresponsible. This year I will try to change and be more responsible.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest I have done all 7(react, begin with no end in mind, put first things last, think win-lose, seek first to talk then, pretend to listen, don't cooperate, and wear yourself out) All most all of my bad habits are from last year and this year I have not done much of theses bad habits I am focusing on the good ones.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest I have a very bad habit of putting first things last
ReplyDeleteHabit 1: React is a familiar habit I have whenever something bad happens to me I would tend to blame someone else and not take responsibility. I also believe that I seriously have Habit 4: Think Win-Lose every day I strive to compete with my peers academically and I see it as a competition to see who gets the better grade. I would also posses Habit 7: Wear yourself out I tire my self out constantly and I focus on one and ignore everything else. But I hope that I would soon forget about these habits and start fresh.
ReplyDeleteSome of the habits that Covey lists on page 7 Are all basically habits I had in the past .Habit Number 1 is a habit that I still kind of deal with which is that I blame other people when I get in trouble or for something bad that I did Or Have done. Like it just naturally comes out to say Oh! He did It Or No It Wasn’t me I guess because I try to avoid the consequences or what so ever.Hope that I could soon get done with that habbit!On The other side A bad habit that I have that I got rid of that Covey lists is that I did used to have the habit to put first things last Which is habit number 3.I would say oh! I’ll do it later then when later came I would say oh let me just do this until the last minute I would do it and that actually affected me a lot last year. This year I learned it was not good and it caused me to stress alot and to not do my greatest work.So Now I put important things first.
ReplyDeleteI got to say that the most ringing habit that I have from the list on page 7 would be habit 3, Put First Things Last. I guess that I have done this more than 5 times either because I just feel like a certain thing is going to take longer than another or most likely because I have a habit of simply putting the most important things last instead of the least important things last. I feel there shouldn’t be an order to the way you do certain things, because eventually they are going to be done.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest, some of these habits do ring a couple bells. Even though they do ring bells their OLD habits and I have overcome them. Habit 2 is familiar: Begin with No End in Mind. I would always do things without thinking about it or having a plan. Now when I do something I make sure I always have a plan and a goal. Another is habit 5: Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen. This is an old habit as well I would always make sure I stated my opinion then just sit and pretend to listen to everybody else. Just like habit 2, I have overcome this useless habit. Hopefully no more defective habits for me!
ReplyDeleteOne habit I constantly do is habit 3: put first thing last. I would never do projects or homework first. I would come home and relax but not anymore. I try to avoid doing that.
ReplyDeleteI got to say that the most ringing habit that I have from the list on page 7 would be habit 3, Put First Things Last. I guess that I have done this more than 5 times either because I just feel like a certain thing is going to take longer than another or most likely because I have a habit of simply putting the most important things last instead of the least important things last. I feel there shouldn’t be an order to the way you do certain things, because eventually they are going to be done.
ReplyDeleteI am guilty of Habit 5, 6. I consider myself born with the gift of the Gab. I use it so much that I then leave others out of the conversation and I won’t listen to them either. Habit six is a big one for me. I usually like to work in groups but sometimes I get associated with a group that doesn’t really do much: except for me- I get stuck with doing the actual work. So, I usually like to go off by myself.
ReplyDeleteOne of the seven habits of highly defective teens are Habit number 3 and Habit number 7. I am used to always putting things last. Usually until the last minute! I am hoping this book will help me get rid of this bad habit. I am also a big fan of number seven. I am usually looking for ways to wear myself out. I am alwasy wanting a cramped schedule but it sometimes doesnt turn out the way I plan it to. Those are some habits of highly defective teens.
ReplyDeleteA habit that rings true tto me was Habit 3: (Put first things last) Which was about how the most important things in your life, you do them when they're due the next day and you do them at the last minute and that's what I do sometimes because I don't feel like doing the assignment because I'm feeling lazy and feel like watching television and using the computer. When I have an assignment that's due. A habit that will be old to me will be Habit 4 (Think Win-Lose) because sometimes I can be very competitive and I will always wanted to win so everyone can lose. But not anymore because it's rude to be competitive and you can also hurt someones feelings.
ReplyDeleteMrs. Veltman
ReplyDeleteI think the way I can change this bad habit is by whether I win or lose I won't try to react of what had happened.
Habit 1 [React] I've blame someone else once or twice for what I did. Habit 3 [put things last] Last year I always would do this and got bad grades but this year I'm not putting things last. And habit 7 [wear yourself out] I still do this but I'm trying to stop.
ReplyDeleteYes I have done Habit 3: Put first things last several times. Every day when I get home from school I don't start right away on my homework I usually just watch TV or do something else. Also when the teacher gives us an assignment that isn't due for some time I don't know why but I put it up until the last minute which I later regret doing it. Hopefully I will soon make this an old habit.
ReplyDeleteWow! Thank you for your honesty and for being so candid. I appreciate your responses. I have to admit some of the responses did not surprise me. However, I am looking forward to the change you are committing to.
ReplyDeleteI want to remind everyone to review their posts before they submit them. Make sure you proofread and edit for both spelling and grammatical errors. Your post should make sense to you and to all who read it. Remember, I will reject your post for errors, if it is incomplete, or if it's not your best work.
Please be conscious of deadlines as well.
One of the defective habits I have is to react. I react to things I get blamed for and say it wasn’t my fault, even though sometimes it is I try to make something up so I don’t get framed. There was one time that I did something “bad” that my parents didn’t agree with me that it was right and I reacted and said that my younger brother did it but it wasn’t him and later I had to pay for what I did. Another bad habit I have is seek first to talk then pretend to listen, I always do that with my brother first I say what I want to say and don’t really pay attention to what he has to say about the situation we’re in . Both habits are horrible and I have to find a way to break them and become a better person. One of the ways for me not to react is I can think before I act and not say dumb stuff like it wasn’t my fault. A way I can break my habit of not caring what others have to say is pay attention to them and let them say what they want to say.
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree with Diego V. Some times when you’re having a bad day you just don’t feel so sociable and you would prefer to work apart and sometimes even alone. I have had more than my fair share of THOSE days.
ReplyDeleteAmanda,
ReplyDeleteI agree with you most of the time when something happens to me I have to react and put the blame on someone else, and its hard to stop but once you master this habit it will be easy as pie.
Yes, like Saira I also have the tendency to but first things last like home work is not the first thing I do which should be well hopefully that soon turns into an old habit.
ReplyDeleteTania,
ReplyDeleteHabit 3 also rings true to me. This book has helped me though, I hope it will help you as well.
Rachel,
ReplyDeleteIt is very cool that you are going to replace putting first things last. If you put off the most important things last, you will not succeed, and will eventually be stressed out. Instead of putting first things last, do the assignment, and just get it over with. Just remember to always do your best. That is why it is not good to leave those important things last. Do the most important things first, then do the rest.
David,
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. Honestly I think that if you blame someone for your actions, nothing good comes out of it.