Take a look at the ideas listed under "Baby Steps" on page 144:
Keep Promises
Do Small Acts of Kindness
Be Loyal
Listen
Say You're Sorry
Set Clear Expectations
Be sure to post which area you addressed. How did you decide which step to take? How did you feel about the outcome?
Post by Friday, September 11th at 5:oop.m.
I apologized to the people i have abandoned or have hurt. Here is one of the e-mails i sent:
ReplyDeleteLook, I KNOW I wasn't on my best behavior that day but i want to let u know that I am truly sorry but it's your choice if u forgive me or not. I really hope u do...
I addressed the Listen baby step. I chose to do this one because I talk a lot at home, so today I decided to let other people talk for once. I feel like the outcome has made me a better listener so I can listen to someone without interupting a conversation that might be important.
ReplyDeleteSay you're sorry. I have a guy friend whom I haven’t been in contact with because of a recent discussion… I have really missed confiding in him so I decided to forgive and forget our bad argument and his bad decisions. But, I’m a VERY proud person so you have to understand that it was very hard for me to muster up the courage to do it. But after much inner debating with myself and my conscience I decided to write him this short e-mail:
ReplyDeleteLook, I KNOW I wasn’t on my best behavior but you weren’t exactly fair with me either. Anyway, I want to let you know that I am truly sorry but it's your choice if you forgive me or not. I really hope u do...
This week I have helped my brother with his homework. I’ve helped my parents clean around the house. I’ve been trying to go that extra mile by watering all the plants washing all the dishes and putting them where they belong. I think I’ve been mainly focusing on doing “small acts of kindness”, because I believe the little things are what count the most.
ReplyDeleteI feel really good about myself, and I know that if I try my best at ANYTHING I can succeed. Knowing this, it will help me become an effective individual, and take me great places in life.
An area that I addresed is listening. How I decided which step to take is because I personally like to be listened to. I never really listen to my mom and I am sure she would be delighted if I listened to her more often. The outcome was great because I feel better about our daughter and mother relationship and I am sure she does too.
ReplyDeleteThe post I addressed to was to do small acts of kindness. I chose this post because I don’t usually do this kind of thing. So over the week I have given small compliments to people and have done things around the house to help my family. It made me feel happy to know that I was making people feel good about them.
ReplyDeleteI helped my mom clean the house, I helped my sister with her homework, I help my family and friends with anything they need. My baby step is "Do Small Acts of Kindness." I picked this baby step because doing small acts of kindness is a really easy thing to do and I love helping people. I felt really proud of myself and happy of helping other people.
ReplyDeleteThe area I did was keep a promise. This week I promised my little sister to help her do her homework. I almost forgot but when I saw her doing it, I sat down and helped her. We finished pretty early. I felt good for helping her, and I'll do it again.
ReplyDeleteThis week I did a small act of kindness. When I was already settled in my desk eating breakfast a friend of mine came over asking for help because her stuff were seconds away from falling all over the floor and I quickly took her books. Fortunately nothing of hers fell. I decided to help her because if that were ever to happen to me I would also want someone to help me. After helping her I felt very good about myself.
ReplyDeleteOver the week I was being really grouchy and mean to my brother, he was getting on my last nerves so I yelled at him really bad. Afterward I felt really bad and sorry. He probably felt blue and mad at me. I knew how it felt being yelled at for being a kid and just trying to have a little fun so I came out of my room after I cooled off and told my brother sorry for yelling at him then I asked him if he wanted to go bike riding around the block. After I said sorry I felt really good and in a better mood.
ReplyDeleteThe area i adressed this week was: Say You're Sorry. I decided to to adress this area because i knew i was actually going to be able to do this idea. I chose something i was sure i could do. This week i argued with my brother and said some mean things. I told him i was sorry before i went to bed. He also ended up apologizing and we weren't mad anymore. I felt good because i knew i did the right thing.
ReplyDeleteThrough this week I made some deposits to my relationship bank account by keeping all the promises that I made. Through this week I made some promises, by the end of the week I had successfully completed all of my promises without a problem. A promise that I completed through this week was that I was going to meet up wit my friends at the park at 4:00 P.M to play soccer, I always was the first one to get there to the park at exactly 4:00 P.M. Also at the beginning of the week I had promised myself that I was going to keep up with my reading in the “7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens” and I am now proud to say, that I was able to keep up with my reading.
ReplyDeleteI did baby step #7: Listen. I decided to do this one because I usually talk a lot at home and don’t let other people say what they have to say, and that annoys me too. I feel that doing that has made me a better listener
ReplyDeleteThis week I made a deposit to "The Relationship Bank Account" and I did baby step number 9: Say You're Sorry. I stepped on my little sister's miniature doll house when I wakened up one morning. I reacted and blamed her for leaving her toys in my room. Then I reread the baby steps on page 144 and said that I was sorry to my little sister. I told her that I should have been looking where I was going and that I shouldn't have reacted too quickly. And I felt happy that I was the one to apologize.
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ReplyDeleteI have a guy friend whom I haven’t been in contact with because of a recent discussion… I have really missed confiding in him so I decided to forgive and forget our bad argument and his bad decisions. But, I’m a VERY proud person so you have to understand that it was very hard for me to muster up the courage to do it. But after much inner debating with myself and my conscience I decided to write him this short e-mail:
Look, I KNOW I wasn’t on my best behavior but you weren’t exactly fair with me either. Anyway, I want to let you know that I am truly sorry but it's your choice if you forgive me or not. I really hope u do...
I was and still am nervously awaiting the outcome of this. I decided to choose this as my action of the week because I still feel really guilty. Maybe this will work out and hopefully be good to my Karma. And if it doesn’t- he’s missing out. I just made a nice deposit to MY RBA.
During the week I found time to make a deposit into “The Relationship Bank Account” by doing a small act of kindness which was me helping my neighbor carry his groceries from his car to his house. I saw that he was struggling to take his heavy groceries into his house so I decided that I should help him. After I did that I felt really good about myself because I helped someone who was I need of some help and my heart just lit up after I did that.
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ReplyDeleteI wanted to do something I thought nobody else would do. So I decided to buy this homeless man a burger. He is always outside an abandon building on Archer. I didn’t want to go alone so I made my cousin go with me. We went to burger king and bought a double cheese burger. When I gave the man that burger he kept on saying thank you, and that he wished there were more people like us. I felt so proud of myself because I gave a man who was practically staving to death something that would seem to him like a pot full food.
This week I said I was sorry. For me apologizing is super difficult. I had to apologize this week to a guy on my soccer team. When we were having soccer practice he did something that got me so irritated. He threw my friend into the garbage can. I didn't think, so I tackeled him to the floor and punched him right in the nose. I got up and left proudly but the next day I felt really bad. I coulndn't sleep and I keep hearing a voice inside my head telling me that I was wrong. I decided that I had to do the right thing. I called and apologized and he forgave me. I was kind of surprised. I guess I kind of expected him to be mad but no so now we are good teammates again.
ReplyDeleteThe area that I addressed during the week was “Keep Promises.” This is one of the many areas that I have problems with. I decided to take this step of keeping my promises because it is something that I need to be able to do so that people can trust me more. Most of the times I have a hard time keeping my promises to my friends and family. For example, I would tell my mom that I would be home by 7pm and then come home till 9pm. Or I would tell my brother that I would play with him on the PlayStation2 and then I never do. During this week, I work very hard to keep my promises and was astonished with the outcomes. I was able to keep almost all of my promises minus for one. I kept my promises to my mom, dad, brother, sister and mostly all my friends. But I failed to keep my promise to my best friend. I improved with keeping my promises but I am still going to try harder to keep all of my promises.
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ReplyDeleteThis week I decided to set clear expectations for myself. I decided to turn in a book report this week even though I already turned one in and make time to turn in all my homework. I decided to take this step because a lot of the time I say I’m going to do something but I never end up doing it. This helped me because I actually did these two things. And now I’m ahead in my book reports so now I don’t have to worry about turning one in for awhile. I also did all of my homework which is great. I feel proud of myself for doing these things and in the future I’m going to make sure that I set clear expectations for myself all the time.
I decided to do the one about Say You're Sorry because I usually argue with my sister a lot so I think that by being the one that apologizes first will help me to becoming a better person.
ReplyDeleteWhen I apologized to my sister after we had an argument, she reacted surprised and to my surprise she said she was sorry too. So I learned that by being the first apologizing makes you feel better and you also make the other person feel happy.
The baby step that I choosed was baby step #8 listen because my grandma loved to talk to people when she came from Mexico and I never listened to her because she talk and talk and she wouldn’t stop so now I'm going to listen to her every time she has something to say and sometimes she has interesting stories.
ReplyDeleteI decided to do the keep promises one. What I did was I promised my brother that I will set up a game for him after work. When I came back from work I was exhausted and wanted to go to bed, but my brother came and said "Can you set up the game now?" I wanted to say no. Then I remembered the promise that I made my brother. So I went to his room and I set up his game and then I went to sleep. He was so happy. This was my tribute to the bank.
ReplyDeleteI found time to make a deposit in the “Relationship Bank Account”. The area I chose was listening. I decided to take step eight because I believe that it is something I should do more because it is always good to listen to someone. My grandma always likes telling me or anyone really about her past. I do not really pay attention, or give the time to pay attention to her. What is really sad is that I think she knows that, this is also why I chose step eight.
ReplyDeleteI listened to my grandma and the outcome was really great, I really enjoyed her stories. The outcome was also good for my grandma, I am happy that I chose step eight!
The baby step I choose was do small acts of kindness. I helped my sister with her homework, read to her, and other small things. I also helped my parents helped clean the house, or taking out the trash. I think by doing this more often I can help my parents more.
ReplyDeleteThat was nice of you Eduardo to apologize especially to a older brother I know I never do that when I have an argument with my little brother. I want to start saying that to not only my borther but others that I have had a disagreement with.
ReplyDeleteYea,I get what you mean Diego v. I do what you sometimes and I'll try to do what you said too.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to Jocelyn because doing small acts of kindness makes me get that warm feeling inside of me.
ReplyDeleteLike Rachel said my grandma is usually talking to us her grandchildren, about the days when she was young and all, but I usually pretend like I’m listening when I’m really thinking about other stuff sometimes though I feel a twinge of guilt when I do that. I think I’m going to try to listen to her and other people that need someone to talk to more often because it would benefit us both.
ReplyDeleteDavid,you need to put more details about why you still picked that baby step and how did you feel about your outcome.
ReplyDeleteI did the same thing as you Maritza! I got in an argument with my little sister a few days ago because she didn’t wait for me to pick her up from school. I was walking around the school looking for her until I saw her with my mom and my mother got mad at me because I didn’t pick her up. I started screaming at my little sister and she was also yelling at me but then I saw my mothers face, she looked disappointed at both of us so I apologized and my sister apologized and my mothers expression went from disappointed to surprised at the sudden change.
ReplyDeleteI think you did good Maritza. Sending the people that you’ve hurt an e-mail is such a good idea for apologizing. If I hurt someone, I would’ve done the same thing. I hope that, that person forgave you because at least you apologized.
ReplyDeleteDiego V,
ReplyDeleteI was wondering if you can use an example where you listened. In your blog you said that you decided not to talk as much. I would also like to know how that person reacted or what was the outcome.
Eduardo N, that was a good thing to do because if you get in a fight with somebody you should apologize that person he as to apologize to you too and that was the right thing to do.
ReplyDeleteDiego G,
ReplyDeleteI have also addressed this baby step because, I usually like to talk a lot and I don’t usually listen to other people, but now I’m trying to start listening to other people first and then they could listen to me. I believe that if I keep on doing this baby step correct, I will end up increasing my listening skills, and my friend relationships.
David,
ReplyDeleteI thought you used a good example. However I wanted to know how you felt after you helped your parents and sister.
I'm really proud of you Maritza! Not many people can apologize to the people they have hurt. I know it’s really hard so I’m extremely proud of you. I’m proud of all of you that have apologized.
ReplyDeleteAmanda, I agree with you. Most of the time I might get mad at my brother and then do something to him because he might of gotten on the tip of my nerves. But then I end up feeling really bad about it and I know he probably is sad. So apoligize to the best that I can and make it up to him.
ReplyDeleteAwww, thanks you guys, I really appreciate it!
ReplyDeleteMaritza that was a really smart and effective way of apologizing. It really is hard to say you're sorry. You really chose to do the right thing.
ReplyDeleteI think that you did a good thing Ale. Helping your neighbor carrying his groceries is such a nice thing to do. When you felt that your heart lit up, I’m guessing that your neighbor’s to. He was probably thankful that you helped him, and you felt really good after that.
ReplyDeleteAmanda,
ReplyDeleteyou wouldn't believe how many times I yelled at my younger brother and sister and end up feeling terrible. I say that I'm sorry and play a game with them. After that I would feel less terrible.
This week I said I was sorry. It is super difficult for me to say sorry. I had apologized this week to my sister. We were playing around and just having a good time playing videogames. Then she was pretending to hit me on the head, and she then later hit me on the head by accident. I had got so mad that I got up from my seat and punched her right on the back. I had punched her so hard that she had started to cry, and she is 21 years old. Later that day when she had gone home, we didn’t even speak to each other. I had felt so bad that I actually called her the next morning apologizing, and she accepted my apology. I actually expected for her to still be mad at me, but now we are the best of sisters again!
ReplyDeleteThe baby step I want to address is doing small acts of kindness. What I decided to do is to just assist people, from just saying a small compliment to making dinner.
ReplyDeleteAwww!!!! That's so sweet Jetzy! I'd help too. You treated someone how you want to be treated.
ReplyDeleteI do small acts of kindness to everyone, whether it’s a compliment or a simple job. I always compliment my sister, mom, family, and friends. I also like to help out people without even being asked to help. If I see an elderly women or man struggling with heavy objects I’m always glad to help. I like to do these sorts of small acts of kindness because it makes me feel good and I know the people really appreciate it.
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